Thank you all so much for the perspective. These are difficult things to accept but I do see the points you are making.

Recently I really have been going out and having my own life with other groups of friends. I do it fairly often; those are the majority of my social interactions. It's easier for me to be with them because I can better hide or ignore depressed feelings. It's difficult for me to 'fake' with closer friends.

But I can check in with her about things, see how she's feeling. I have definitely been thinking about myself too much recently and though verbally I don't express it, it is apparent in my body language and actions at home. Basically she only gets to see the sad me nowadays and I could do a better job of keeping that to myself, being there for her, and focusing on the positives around her.

Thank you all for your thoughts! It is very helpful. I will be sure to keep you posted.