How long have you been in therapy and how long have you been with that particular group T?

I ask because for me it's been helpful to have a space where I just get validated and believed. If you've had little of that in your life to date it can be very healing for a T to say "oh, that sounds like a terrible experience!" or something like that. It feels good to be given permission to feel hurt or angry or whatever especially if you were not really allowed those feelings before.

That said, as Lauliza and others have pointed out so aptly, we don't go to therapy to change others--no matter how much those others are wrong and should change. For me though a very confrontational style of therapy is really not helpful at all. Being told that I had self righteous indignation would make me feel like T was just one more person who didn't support me and wasn't on my side.

I think a skilled T can help you get to the part where you change your own reactions to or perceptions of other by saying stuff like "what if your family never changes?" or "how do you wish you had handled that?" It's slower and more subtle but in my opinion feeling understood and accepted by T is a necessary foundation for challenging and changing your way of doing things.