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Old Mar 06, 2014, 07:10 AM
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Originally Posted by krisakira View Post
But I am just tired of people saying I have to change ME and that others don't have to change. Sounds really one-sided and unfair to me. Of course I am tired of it, because I was the scape goat of the family. If anything happened, it was all my fault. I am tired of it being this way, and want others to be held accountable for what they have done to me.
What's been done is done. How would you propose for EVERYONE around you, to change?

Some skills on your reactions, trading those reactions in for boundaries, a different way of first processing the scenario, then asserting, without an overreaction that includes, continuously bringing your childhood wounds into play, each and every time you feel slighted in the here and now.

First step to change, is acceptance that change needs to,be made. Not being a victim of circumstance.


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Thanks for this!
Lauliza