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Old Mar 06, 2014, 09:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Freewilled View Post
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Sure we can only change ourselves. But when we go to T, do we go in saying "look some **** happened to me but it's not what I'm here for. I don't need to talk about it. I need to change myself. That's it."? If we did say that, I guarantee most Ts would hone in on the **** that happened in the past, at least partially. That's a big part of what we do when we go to T! I sense you feel a lot of anger related to your life experiences. Maybe it's justified? I think a T needs to help you FEEL what you feel and then help you transition toward helping yourself. But you HAVE to be ready to move toward that part and the T has to be careful here, IMO...
This. For me, it was like there was a step in between here. I wanted to know what happened to me as a result of being treated this way, like what didnt i get or what didnt i learn. Thats where reparenting in a good way fits in - getting the good stuff. Getting tucked in, not just being told to go to bed.
Thanks for this!
Freewilled, krisakira, tametc