Now my next question is going to be... does anyone have any books they'd recommend? I'm a Do-It-Yourselfer, so if I want to change myself using CBT or DBT or any other effective self-change system, I just pick up a book on CBT behavior change.

I really would like to know how to change behaviors, that way if an unhelpful one arises in the future, I'll be able to tackle it whenever I need to:

Here's what I'd like to accomplish right now. The sound simple enough, but it really feels like something's holding me back. I want to:

Eat vegetables 3 times a day
My diet is pretty decent, but I really have a hard time motivating myself to eat veges for a full 3 meals.
Grow my business
I know what I have to do, but sometimes I kinda get in a slump where I'm like "tomorrow, tomorrow"
Talk to more girls I find attractive.
I'm a single guy, and girls like me. I'm flirty with them and 90% of the time they're flirty back to me. I just... have speed bumps. Like maybe I'll be flirting with a cashier that's checking out my items, but I'll just say goodbye and leave. All my friends will be like "dude, why didnt you take that chicks number? she was totally into you!".. and I just don't. It's a bad habit because a lot of these girls if I really got to know them, I'd probably really like them. Another thing is, I'd like to be able to just see a girl I find attractive, walk up to her and introduce myself. Whenever I talk to girls I feel like there has to be a reason. Like the only reason I'm flirty with cashiers is because I have to talk to them anyway. I find it hard to just walk up to a chick, introduce myself and communicate interest in them. Like I mentally know that women a lot of times would like for me to ask for their number, but a lot of times it's just easier to walk away. Nothing risked, nothing gained, right? I've probably walked away from so many great women and great opportunities, just because it was "easier" that way. It's stupid, I know, but that's why I wanna fix it.

Anyway, I just feel like I don't have as much control over my own behavior as I'd like to. So a method to correct that would be more than welcome.