... To all who have responded:

If it was just me, I'd dunn her for lying about me! You bet I would! That's exactly what's bothering me. Her parents won't allow it! They are still operating under the idea that I "traumatized" her!

She'd freak out when she knew Jerry was going over to their house, afraid that I was coming, too. If she actually did freak out, it was probably fear that I was going to say or do something to her about her lie. I can't do that now. My hands are tied with the "boundaries" her mother has set up.

My sense of integrity isn't allowing me to project anything positive for when I see her. I don't really think she'll ignore me because she's been telling her dad, my son, to tell me this or that when we've been on the phone. She won't get on the phone and tell me, but she insists her dad tell me. Actually, I've been glad that she won't get on the phone. I don't want to talk to her.

It's my own feelings that I'm battling. Going on the fact that I can't say or do anything that might be misunderstood by her mom, I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet and swallow my feelings. If ya'll could come up with a different mind set for me, I'd sure appreciate it.

There's a poem I wrote about the incident in CC. It's called "A Light Went Out." I sent a copy of it to her mom last month but she deleted it. She didn't allow my son to read it, probably because my feelings are encapsulated in that poem. I'd like for him to read it, anyway. It won't do any good to email it again, because she'll no doubt make an issue of it or won't let John read it again. I feel he has to know. SOMEONE besides Jerry needs to know how I feel!! Ya'll know, but you won't be there at the ball game to stand up for me.