Yeah, I can see how they might be related for some things. Reading some of your threads I think a lot of your work will be on understanding boundaries, communication issues, and distress tolerance. Those things don't seem to me to have much to do with being queer but are just skills everyone has to learn. Jmo. I guess you'll have to compromise somewhere in what you want with living in a smaller city.

On another thread of yours I mentioned 12 step groups. Sometimes there are meetings that are LGBT and of course everything is anonymous so you can also get support that way without having to worry about what you say leaving the room. If your dad won't pay for another T that is a good free resource.

You'll figure out the right combination of support. It will just take a bit of time and creativity.