My therapist says she feels a lot of push/pull from me. She's mentioned feeling pushed out by me, like i close down and won't let her in at times.

The past couples of weeks have been difficult. And after we communicated by several texts she rang me to talk and told me she felt under attack by me that she feels me trying to push her away.

And i know i do it. I push and push until things break. I am pushing her to find her breaking point. I can feel myself doing this. Sometimes i'm aware of it, sometimes i'm not, and mostly i'm not in control of it.

Do other people do this? How aware are you of doing it? What kind of things do you do as a way of pushing your therapist away?