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Originally Posted by Teacake
She says she has scary mental problems. Hes too weird and scary for couples therapy. He is also being abusive. She doesn't need therapy to learn how to take that crap and he wont do anything in therapy except lament his lost.love.
When a man gives you.scary.mental problems you need to let him.go...fast.
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I'm careful not to write ppl off as abusive impulsively. He clearly has some abandonment issues of his own that manifest as him threatening to leave her. I don't know him but since he's stopped speaking about the other woman I'm going to assume he realized he was wrong. In my opinion he likely rebounded with the OP from a hurtful relationship and then began hurting her. Hurting people hurt ppl.
I don't think he gave the OP mental problems, he likely aggravated the ones she had already which may be why she was willing to accept his mistreatment. In couples therapy a good therapist will provide a place to work things out or leave the relationship safely if necessary. I would never suggest that a woman or man learn to tolerate abuse. I recommended a safe place for her to work on the relationship and/or leave it.
It's too easy to advise a person to leave a relationship. When ppl reach the point of seeking help on a forum online, they likely want a few steps they can take. Leaving has likely already crossed their mind and led to them to reach out.
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