What I meant by "I am sure Aspergics would be reasonable as far as is possible when told of the hurt caused" is that my brother has been told how hurtful his actions have been yet he continues to go out of his way to hurt me even more. He won't even speak to me and be civil and to me that is very odd behaviour from someone. He seems to disappear for weeks and be completely out of contact. This makes me question whether he has Aspergers or whether it is something else that is wrong with him. I feel that if I had a diagnosis in my hand for him it would help me better understand why he acts the way he does. At least that would provide some comfort in place of all the despair and questions I have about him.

I agree with you that sometimes people just aren't very nice, I just don't like to think that that is really all there is to my brother. I suppose some part of me wants to blame his behaviour on a condition rather than his personality.