Yearning, maybe the analogy doesn't work for people so well, but with any animal, abused or otherwise, I make a point of ignoring behavior I don't like or that is not productive. Abused animals often have weird, quirky things they do. I had one mare that would rear in place when upset. I never corrected her for it, but I never, ever petted her or went up to her while she was doing it either. I ignored it and when she stopped, I gave her attention and we went back to what we were doing. For me, it's all about not reinforcing behaviors that are problematic. If my daughter is angry and withdrawn, I let her withdraw, but let her know I'm available if she wants contact.

I think if your T were to follow you and give you reassurance and care and gentleness at that point, it would be reinforcing a behavior that is counterproductive in your real life.