Some people believe that if you wear your "good" clothes, you'll feel more confident and "put together." I don't believe this really. I don't think clothes have much to do with anything unless you are bothered by it yourself. It's good to wear comfortable clothing especially to a place where you need to be comfortable. I've never had a therapist comment on my clothing except once, when a previous male T commented that I wasn't wearing all black because I had tan shorts on. I don't know why people don't want us to wear black. It is not evil or anything. It is just stigmatized. Anyway, I think it was unprofessional for T to say you weren't presentable. I would be just as upset, if not even more. I would be embarrassed. Especially coming from another woman. Women compete so much with each other. But in the end, she probably wanted YOU to feel better, and thought that by wearing better clothes, you would be in a better mood and feel more productive. I have been told this in DBT group, that we women should wear makeup to feel better about ourselves. I think it's stupid. I don't need make up. In fact it would make me feel worse. How counterproductive. I am comfortable in my clothes, and that is what should matter.

Wanted to add that what I wear every day is jeans and a black t-shirt, black skate shoes, and sometimes a black sweatshirt over top of that, and sometimes a black hoodie jacket. I am 25 years old, and still dress the same way as when I was thinner and in high school. So it has nothing to do with my weight, like some people think too.