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Originally Posted by Teacake
The behavior she described is abusive. I dont care If he is being abusive because he has abandonment issues or because the Bible says or because his mother sold him to gypaies who made him dance and steal for love. Abuse is abuse, intentional or conscience or whatever. She will never fix him. She should drop him and tend to her own injuries. Life is too short to suffer from bad boyfriends. Good healthy boys need love too.
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I think we all bring our own experiences with us to this sort of thing. I've been guilty of rebounding and comparing exes to the currents and threatened to walk for fear of being left so I know the behavior and I was not being abusive though and was without a doubt very emotionally immature. I do think him commenting on her weight crosses the line but I'm not sure if this was a common occurrence. I hope it wasn't and if it was I recommend seriously considering time apart from him or a break up, if the OP sees fit, if he will not or cannot grow up. We'll just have to agree to disagree on him being an abuser. The bigger issue now is how the OP will get help. I don't think her bf caused her mental issues but I do think he exacerbated them. She seems unsure of herself but without knowing her I would say she comes across as a very caring and understanding person. I think she needs a little help with seeing that though because for so long she has been compared to someone else by a pretty immature bf. I do hope she will seek therapy and come to know who she is apart from what her boyfriend believes her to be.
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