Rouge, I think its simpler than that. She is dating this boy. She feels really bad. It is lunacy to stay in a dating relationship that makes her feel bad. If she were trying to return adopted children because they cries for their own birthmother...but she isnt. Girlfriends are not obligated to go to therapy to learn how to help detective boyfriends recognise their own abuse and knock it off. She's not a psychiatric nurse with a patient. She's a girl or woman who has every right to enjoy relationship without someone elses mental illness causing pain.

There is no rule that we must stick with boyfriends. Dating is about exploration, not commitment. Young people are very mistaken when they treat dating partners as virtual marriage partners.

Its best for her o get some space to see how this boy hurt her. Unmarried people can retreat to each Seal wirh their own pain. With luck hers is simple. His seems severe. He may be in his fifties before he gets real help.