Yes - I do this Not purposely, but I see it now that I'm thinking about it. I knew that I pushed my T, but didn't realize my pull behavior. I will try to get him to agree with me that he can't help me, he's really not wanting to help me or hates me, yadda yadda. Then lately I sent him an email saying I do really appreciate him and need his help....WTF? My poor T. I don't get why I do this stuff.

T says I'm testing him and it's perfectly understandable. Eh. I don't want to do that, especially to him.