Amen gloaming - anger is SCARY. I become afraid to really look at issues because when anger comes up I start to think things like ... how could I feel so negative about my sister, daughter, son, etc. I must be a bad person, other people don't feel this way, blah, blah, blah. None of that is true but I go there anyway.

Recently I read this suggestion in a meditation book and I tried it on a issue I was having and it really seemed to work for me. Get a piece of paper out and write the following at the top "If I were really honest with myself right now, what am I feeling?" You can even add an issue such as "...what am I feeling about my son?" Don't edit it and be honest - just start writing and put down everything you can - the good, the bad, and the ugly ... the TRUTH. In doing that exercise, it seemed like the negative feelings I was having went from inside me onto that paper and I had a release of sorts ... not perfect but better and that is good enough for me these days.

Then destroy the paper (unless you want to share it with your therapist)!!