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alexandra_k said:
is this about the

'if she wears that she is asking to be raped' line of reasoning???

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Not at all. What I said has nothing to do with rape. What I meant was, if you dress provocatively, don't be surprised if men hit on you more. This is not because "you deserve it," or you're intentionally trying to tell these guys you want sex. What I'm saying is, our society is such that men think women who dress sexually want sex, and feel more comfortable to approach them. It should not be this way; people should know that dressing a certain way doesn't mean you're seeking a specific type of relationship.

In no way am I talking about a man thinking he has a right to force a woman (or man) into sex. That's another issue from what I'm saying here.

But back to the subject of how people view how you dress, and how hypocritical it is. Women who dress to emphasize their bodies are seen as "sluts"...even if they're not. I'm not saying change the way you dress, because I don't think you're wrong. I'm saying, Just be aware of how society views you, so you can be prepared. I think being prepared means being able to speak up and tell these jerks who judge you that their interpretation of why you dress this way or what they think you want is a) wrong, and b) none of their business. Most people still see a man in a business suit and think he's a more honest man than the guy wearing a leather jacket and torn jeans.

I hope that's more clear.