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Originally Posted by unguy
negative references so that no one would hire me
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Believing this is part of your problem.
You can do file a complaint. I just wouldn't make it a priority before the things that affect your future. Getting a new job and selling that house sound to me like they are more important, no? Their negative references really doesn't look good to other companies. They are only supposed to confirm you worked there. The worse they behave the worse it looks for them the more likely it is that the new employer will ignore them. That's why I say be straight up and just say they don't plan to give a good reference. When they call and the reference is bad they know you were honest. That is infinitely more valuable then trying to avoid the issue.
Filing a complaint: Think carefully about this. If you file a complaint now you look like a whistle-blower. Between you and I that is admirable. As soon as the old company finds out they shut up. Great. But it won't help you get a job. The problem is if the new company finds out they have no idea who is right or wrong only that you filed a complaint and are disgruntled. Nobody wants to risk hiring somebody who will take them to court.
6 months into the new job knowing you love the new company is not too late to file if you feel strongly about it and want to help others. The next time you look for a job you will have great references and the complaint won't affect you. Right now is a really bad idea.
And why would you be talking to the manager after you left anyway?
Just so you know... I had a nasty situation where someone accused me of stealing and they believed her. She undermined a lot of stuff behind my back. I don't even know why she was threatened by me. Anyway I left, heartbroken because it was something I really loved. Sure enough 1 year later I'm reading the newspapers and a critic is writing this story about this person who sent him a fax complaining about the "incompetence" of the
FOUNDER. The only problem is she inadvertently sent the fax from her personal computer with
her name on it. It's a small community. I have no doubt being in good graces with the founder was way more important than some intern. I have never seen her name anywhere since. So her character caught up with her. It didn't help me but there was some satisfaction anyway