G., my bf, tried to take my bra off in a way that seemed threatening to the life span of the bra. I said: "No, let me take it off and put it on hangers - at $80 a piece just for 6 months, the bra is too precious for me and I am not going to let you tug on it.

I do not do what Nordstrom recommends in terms of hand-washing the bras, but I do place each in a separate cylinder mesh bag and wash on delicate in Nordstrom's lavender wash and hang on hangers to avoid squishing or placing one cup inside another (a no-no), so I do 90% of recommended care instructions. With that much maintenance and cost, the bras are the most expensive items in my wardrobe.

But it is totally reasonable for a man to take clothes off his woman without her saying: "Wait, this one is too expensive, so let me take it off myself CAREFULLY first."

I guess I need to buy a special bra - just one - that I would put on before he visits and let him do whatever he wants, and not wear the bra at all, and for that kind of a "play bra" I would not care about the quality, support, fit, smoothness under clothes etc. rather, I would care about how it looks and nothing else. Which leads me to think that it needs to be a scarlet red. And, I want to surprise him. So I am posting a poll with colors for men and women to vote. I did not include "nude" because I do realize that it is boring.