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Originally Posted by unguy
I have a few problems that are giving me grief.
My mother recently passed and I am left to clean out her house, sell it and close the estate. I am already procrastinating. Truth is, I hate my mom's house because it was more important to her than her children. My dad died young trying to add on and pay for an addition to it. Somehow, I have to find the energy to do this.
Worse, I am being bombarded by head hunters and corporations looking to interview me for work. I want to return to work full-time. (I'm currently on SSDI.) It's so frustrating to have to turn down interviews because of that F'ing house. I really want to interview. Should I?
Finally, at my last 2 jobs I worked for sociopaths. One in particular gives all former employees negative reviews. It has impeded me getting a job even though I am a very nice guy and a very hard worker. Now, no one will hire me. Finally, I am hiring a private investigator to record evidence of what they are saying. That will enable me to possibly file a law suit. So far, attorneys have not wanted to take my case because they are difficult to prove and the court damages awarded are low. I'll do anything to work again so last night I emailed the P.I. with questions and specific requests of what is to be done.
Comments? Thoughts? Suggestions?
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Hi, your current situation is my future nightmare: having to deal with my mothers properties and useless stuff in a 3rd World Dump Country. What I have started to do is tell all of my relatives as clearly as I can and in writing that I want absolutely nothing of that misery. I've even told my mother and brother.
Do you have the option to hire a company that specializes in cleaning out homes, selling the property and helping you settle the estate without you being involved 24x7? I don't know if they exist. If they don't I'm sure it would be a valuable business.
As for your psycho boss, I had one of those. "Luckily" when I left his employment I went into my first BPD and MDD crisis. Ten years later when I was in a position to look for a new job, the SSOB was long gone, unfortunately not 6ft under. Could you take the offensive and maybe get corroboration from fellow victims and write a blurb about your ex-boss' actions? In my care, I worked for government and managers were forbidden from giving references, only HR could give a reference and it was always very generic.
Finally, if you want a new job, and head hunters are "hunting you", go for it! It's hard enough to get a job when all your ducks are lined up. The house and estate won't go away, the SSOB hasn't died, go for the new opportunities.
