Sounds like he's an ***, to be honest. Honestly, if someone kept saying things like that to me, I'd just cut them off permanently, but that's just me. I don't give a flying frack if they're related to me or not. People are people are people and anyone can become family. If it were me, that person should probably find another person to poison caz it ain't gonna be me. In my experience, people get aggressive with that kind of talk because they are disgusted with something you are or do. Disgust is a very complicated... should I call it an emotion or reaction? I have no idea. All I know is that sometimes people are most disgusted with what they repress the most in themselves. I got lucky in the dad department. I didn't grow up living with my dad but I visited him frequently and we would talk about hard times. He was always very understanding even able to relate. When I said I felt like I had nothing left to offer, he would tell me he felt the same way about himself and we would spend hours on end talking about our observations about the **** going wrong in the world and with ourselves and how we both felt like screw-ups. It was great to have an understanding listener, someone who wasn't afraid to admit his vulnerabilities to his adult daughter and speak to her like a respectable human being instead of making her feel like an annoying kid.

This other guy, who is basically my new dad (adopted) and his wife both were baby boomers and both in the military. He was a Vietnam veteran and had the 'suck-it-up' approach but he was nice about it and never forced it on me when I was a teenager. His wife, however, was a hard-*** woman. She would see me crying for whatever reason and stand over me and say things like: "What? You gonna cry, now??? What is there to cry about? You need to get off your drama kick and stop looking stupid in front of everyone." I think she was embarrassed of me. My soft, sensitive, creative personality seemed to rub her the wrong way. If she had her way, I would stand up straight, never speak until addressed and not cry. When I got older, I stood up to her and things got ugly like you wouldn't believe. See, I'm sensitive, which means that I feel emotions very strongly. When I am sad, I am devastated. When I am happy, I am walking on air. When I was angry and had enough, the ***** finally backed down. I told her that people cry when someone they love dies, or when they get bullied at school (or at home) and that there's nothing wrong with crying and allowing oneself to process their emotions properly and in their own way. Sad because she has training as a social worker so you'd think she knew this stuff. I set my boundaries and avoided further expression of emotion around her. Now, she feels left out. She says things like: "You're just so shut out from us and you don't tell us anything, anymore." Can't imagine why.

I think what he's doing to you is just bullying under the guise of discipline. It's overdone, which means that it is a suspicious amount of effort/aggression put into it. Next time he does that, get down to brass tacks, confront him and ask him what his deal is.