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Originally Posted by kittyfaye
My boyfriend gets turned off by my disinterest and it makes me so sad because it's all my fault our sex has gone downhill.
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Stop that. It's not all your fault. It takes two and if you're having trouble and, as you said, have body image issues, it's up to him to work with you and help you understand just how beautiful you really are. It's
both of you that can make it work or not, not just you.
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Originally Posted by kittyfaye
We didn't have any problems at first, just that I was inexperienced. For several months now though, I have realized that I never reach orgasm. I have only had two orgasms the whole time we've been together and that was only because he was wearing one of those icy hot condoms and a vibrator.
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Hmmm ... does he know how to do cunnilingus properly? There's more to sex than just penetration and oral stimulation might be just the ticket.
There are a ton of guys that don't get that point and just stick it in thinking that's everything that's needed.
Also try experimenting around with mutual masturbation, him masturbating while you use a vibrator (I would suggest a Wet Wabbit). That can be quite a fun time and might help push you over the edge as well.
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Originally Posted by kittyfaye
I do take an SNRI so that might be the culprit, but this no orgasm thing is upsetting me and now it seems I have no interest in sex.
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SNRI's can cause anorgasmia and a drop in libido so this could very well be your culprit. Have you tried anything else like Welbutrin?
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Originally Posted by kittyfaye
I also have body image issues and feel fat and think that my body jiggling during intercourse is disgusting. He doesn't think I'm fat and gets mad when I say I am.
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He's telling you the truth. He's right that you're beautiful and you're seeing things wrong. Trust me, that "jiggling" you're talking about is hot and he probably sees it as a turn-on.
But all that together, try some different things in the bedroom and talk to your doc about anorgasmia as it may be as easy as switching to another medicine like Welbutrin.