lol The "pet the kitty" line has always been one of my favorites. Funny, but not vulgar enough that I feel bad using it (I've never really been good at slang and the female anatomy ).

On to the question though...it usually is "problematic" when the desire begins to interfere with day to day function, as it did here. However, I do certainly understand where you're coming from. It can be hard. We're inundated with a TON of societal pressure about virginity...to the point where it is considered "abnormal" to have not punched the v-card at a certain age. That is largely, in my opinion, a load of crap.

Don't let your perceptions about yourself hold you back. There's someone for everyone. Granted, the waiting sucks, Lord knows I know. But there's no reason that your body profile should be a hindrance...anyone who is going to flat out dislike you on that and that alone isn't worth your time.

As far as speaking to your therapist about it goes, go for it! You needn't give him specifics that you're not comfortable with. I argue you could submit to him nothing but the emotional side of it and get the help you need without it being uncomfortable for either of you (mind you, I don't think it'll catch him off guard...they hear things like this *all* the time and are trained to respond to it).

I hope things look up soon Growlithing, and I hope I was of some help.

Hugs,
Harley