Sorry this has happened to you

and

GLAD this has happened to you BEFORE you married!

Get out of this relationship or at the very least, don't make it worse by

getting married yet!

Well, you said ANY advice.... I tend to try and say pithy things that

no one else has said exactly.<font color=purple>

People like this don't change. Your finance' won't change much from the way it is now... it's HIS family remember? Marriage does NOT change ppl just because.

You need to take care of YOU. This is NOT what you need not now (actually Ican't think of needing this ever.. but then...)

Please I know this is not what you want to hear because you are "in love and everything can be wonderful if" but please listen to us there are plenty of us who have been in or have friends who have.. the same situation and it doesn't get any better.<font color=green>

Once you compound it by marriage... well why DO that? Read some of the posts in the other forums about spouses and their families and their pleas for help. Right now you still make your own decisions... obviously your fiance' does not.

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>