I do get out once a week for a dance class. Extra here and there when I perform.

When he worked a day job I encouraged him to get time for himself, but he was too busy feeling overwhelmed and never went.

I get home from work around 6pm and at that time we're getting the kids' homework done, baths/showers and getting them ready for bed. By the time they are in bed there's very little left of me because I get uo at 5:30 because I have a long commutr.

My beef isn't that he doesn't do enough around the house (it's a small matter to me) it's his absence and nagging when he is around. I do feel he's coming around on the nagging thing (I told him he can earn a sticker every time he makes a day without nagging. It makes him laugh and when I say, "No sticker today" he stops himself). It's the lack of time, and I guess part of me is hurt that hes OK with the lack of time. I guess you could say in addition to depression from loneliness, I feel rejected.