I can second Stopdog, my clients call me and email me at all times and feel entitled to a piece of my life... so why am I not entitled to contact my T?

I agree that zero touch out of session contact sounds cold and not very therapeutic. Every person is different, so saying that someone like you or I cant contact out of session because there's someone out there that's stalking their therapist is absurd.

It seems almost pathological in my case that I cant contact out of session even though my T allows it and I desperately want to. I just feel like such, a, loser... I wanted to email my T all week to say that my dad told me he is proud of me, and then I realized, why would my T care about this? Why am I such a loser that this is a big deal to me? And I didn't even believe it. I guess it is pathological, I feel like such a burden that I assume every contact I have with people is annoying to them. All the reminders, I pay for therapy, I'm not supposed to bother the poor bastard out of the hour... really feeds into my core belief that I'm not worth anyone's time. No wonder I feel like such a mistake. Sorry for my long selfish rant!!