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Originally Posted by Leah123
Thanks for this thread! I am having a stressful morning and was quite ready to be upset by someone ranting that clients shouldn't bother therapists out of session. How nice to read the opposite perspective. 
I've definitely benefitted from out of session contact. I contact my therapist frequently, however, I do pay for all her time, which I think helps keep the relationship fairly well balanced, if intense. I do worry about bothering her too much, but I must trust that after 20 years in the business, if I was, she would set a boundary or say so, when in contrast, she had told me that she never tires of reading my replies and that I do not wear her out, I am not too much for her. So... that's a relief.
I credit the close work we've done with helping me make significant behavioral and other changes in a relatively short period of time. The ability to give her real time, detailed updates gives us both greater insight. I'm very pleased to be working with a therapist who welcomes this type of relationship, and again, she is compensated for the time, so I need not feel as if I'm taking advantage. |
Thank you Leah! I think this is a great example of how appropriate out of session contact can indeed be very helpful. And your T sounds a lot like mine and I am very grateful. This relationship that goes beyond the hour in the office has played a huge part in who I am now as opposed to who I was when I started therapy. And I believe having a
slight feeling of not wanting to "bother" the T too much is healthy and even kind and it shows we can have respectful contact. It's a healthy part in us or one that has been healed.