That's actually an interesting way of thinking about it. My father owns a business and gets calls at all hours from clients, and I email my professors occasionally when I have a question or when I need something and I don't think twice about it. There's one professor that I probably email a couple times a week to run ideas by or to clarify assignments or to comment on the readings or to share something I think she might find interesting, and she doesn't mind at all. (It's also a small class of 18 students, so I get that if she had 300 students, she might not appreciate it as much.)

But I don't worry with her about being a bother or crossing a boundary, and she responds when she responds, which is not always right away, and occasionally she doesn't respond, and I'm fine with that. And she likes that I'm engaging so well with the class material, so it isn't an issue. So why does this paradigm not work with therapists, who should be glad you're engaging so well with the session on your own time? And I don't mean calling the therapist every single day, but occasionally, if you really need to or even if you just feel like it would be helpful.

I had a previous T (ED T) who not only let me email her, but emailed me first to ask how I was doing the day after a session or halfway through the week. It was lovely, and I never abused the privilege. It just made me feel very cared about and helped me trust her. Knowing that emailing her was an option was a comfort.

This T doesn't allow emails/calls/anything. I'm trying to find another T that will, but also worried that stating my needs upfront might make that person not want to take me on as a client because they might worry about not being able to meet that need or me being too high-maintenance...I don't know. It's not like I would email/call every day, but having that option would be really nice.