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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
This T doesn't allow emails/calls/anything. I'm trying to find another T that will, but also worried that stating my needs upfront might make that person not want to take me on as a client because they might worry about not being able to meet that need or me being too high-maintenance...I don't know. It's not like I would email/call every day, but having that option would be really nice.
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It makes me sad that we even have to call it a "need". Calling it that automatically labels us as needy or needier than others. It's not a need, it's a valid desire to be able to process thoughts or fears or even joy and communicate that. And I am not talking about calling or emailing the T with every little thing we have on our minds. But when we feel it could help just to write things down or for them to know what is going on, then why call it a "need" or "crossing boundaries"? My out of session contact is just as important to me as the time I spend with my T in the office. And it doesn't make me a needy person, it just makes me a human who is in the process of getting help and healing. I hope you find a T who is more open to the process.