I agree completely. I have only worked with this one therapist recently, but I worked with four when I was a teenager, so I have a bit of experience with different providers and of course reading about other scenarios also. I do think individualizing the experience is important; I think about hugging as a great example.

Therapist One: hugger, lifesaver
Therapist Two: no hugs, neutral
Therapist Three: hugger, damaging
Therapist Four: no hugs, unhelpful

I wouldn't see a therapist that wasn't willing to work through things with me between sessions. For example, a lot of my early work was anger management, and I found it invaluable to be able to sit down, write out an event, and get same day feedback as I processed it and tried to change and figure out triggers while I was still dealing with the event, or to chat live in real time about recent events and insights I'd had. Frankly, I love the work of therapy, self-exploration when the creativity and inspiration are flowing.

However, the intensity of the relationship (and my outside life, which is intense as well) opened me up to anxiety from doing such intense work whilst and I have spent a lot, at times, trying to resolve ruptures in a way where my spending was out of balance. That's the aspect I'm working to adjust through DBT and sharing the responsibility and planning with my therapist.

Therapy can have side effects. I have a personally high tolerance for them, but it's also just a learning process, and matter of finding the happy medium between worthwhile contact and overpriced contact, haha. Nonetheless, the usefulness of the work is unquestioned for me, and I'll always be grateful for that intense first year. Seeing her commitment, passion, and caring through that continual close work, well.... it has been a rare and precious experience.