I think some people on PC have a very narrow view on out of session contact, i.e. that contact should be confined to just the session and anything outside of that is needy/a burden/asking too much/being dependent, etc., and that not contacting T between sessions is necessary to learn independence, self-reliance, emotional regulation, etc. I don't think this is the case.

I thought this was true with my current T, that contacting her outside sessions was being too needy, which she agreed wit, but then I realized that all that was happening was that my "needing people = bad" and my "I'm alone in the world and can't count on anyone" ideas were being reinforced, and that wasn't helpful to me. I think out of session contact can be helpful so you know you don't have to go at it alone and there are people who support you and care about you.

If T allowed out of session contact, I might email/call once a month or so, probably not more. For the first five months I was seeing her (when out of session contact was okay, I thought), I called once, and then when things got really bad in real life, I called two or three times over the course of six weeks, and then emailed once three weeks ago. I don't think I (or most clients) would take advantage of the out of session contact being available, but it would be comforting to know it was there.