Wow, this is a great thread! I've bookmarked it to come back to. Thank you for starting it.

My ideal therapist:

Gets to know me, cares about me as a human, not just doing his job.
Is ethical and has a thoughtful nuanced understanding of ethics. Knows the difference between a healthy crossing of boundaries and a boundary violation, and keeps healthy boundaries.
Pays attention to the therapeutic relationship.
Is present and authentic.
Doesn't try to lecture me about who I am. Respects my experience and me as a person.
Has good understanding of the therapeutic process and discusses it openly with me.
Has ideas about what therapy should be that are similar to my own.
Is willing to stick around for long-term therapy.
Listens to what I say.
Knows s/he's important to me when s/he is and acts accordingly.
Empathizes.
Uses good pacing in therapy, respects my own rhythm and doesn't try to hurry me or slow me down.
Is involved in the therapeutic relationship - without trying to run my life.
Practices therapy legally.

I also aspire to these standards.
I don't believe anyone can really be ideal, but I respect effort, honesty, and loyalty.