Maybe I will talk to her about it. I just don't want to be creepy and actually calling her that just feels like I could cross a line.

She called me. Her caller ID today came up as her name but I read it as "mom". She wanted to ask me about something and schedule a time to talk later today. I didn't have any time at all to talk to her because I was about to start rehearsal. Inside my brain: "okay okay mom I have to go now. Mom. I have to go. I'll call you later". I had to consciously not say that and when someone asked me who was on the phone I started to say my mom but I stopped myself to say a friend (because I'm not close enough with that guy to say my T called)

The thing is that I think in her mind she knows as well as I do that she isn't a life coach or a therapist, she's a surrogate mother. I think she feels the same way. She compares our work to her raising her daughter all of the time. Like my DBT T called her at work and left a message. LCM called me to have me forward him a different number. She then said "what should I expect to hear from him?" I felt very nervous about that question because I felt like she was accusing me of bad behavior and I told her I feel like how I did in elementary school when the teacher called my mom. She said "I doubt your mom gave you the opportunity to share your side of the story. This is how I handle things with my daughter when her teacher calls or there is a parent teacher conference and this is how I'm going to handle things with you".

I don't know. She calls me sweetheart and baby a lot. I just feel like that if I were to call her mom, it would make her uncomfortable because she would know it would be the emotionally proper word but highlights how weird the boundaries are