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Originally Posted by hankster
I think that feeling that you CAN work it out is so important and helpful!!
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Thanks. Yes, my T told me that too!
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Originally Posted by RTerroni
Great to hear that it's working out for you
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Thank you.
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
Rainbow 
That is great news. There is such a strong and honest connection between you and your t and u love the wAy she admits to her mistakes and is always willing to work through everything.
I love your t too
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I wish you could find a T like mine, mona.
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Originally Posted by geez
Rainbow I'm sooooo happy for you!!!!!!! and that your T is helping you so much!
Oh and Happy Birthday!!
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Thanks, geez. Next time I will ask T exactly what progress she sees in me. I sort of know but I want to hear it from her.
Something I'm realizing now: Holding her hand was nice but it wasn't as good as the "memory" of doing it a couple of years ago. I don't know what that means. Maybe I needed it more then. As I said, it was the child part who wanted to be loved and held. I still want that, but maybe I don't have to hold my T's hand to access it. I can feel safe with her in other ways besides touching.
What was more important was that I wasn't left with the feeling that she "took it away" because it was bad for me, though she made it clear it was her reaction, and nothing about me. I also wanted her to see for herself that it wasn't sexual. It sounds weird, but I think I just wanted "closure" about holding her hand. Now I have the option to ask her again, or not to, and I feel settled about it, after a couple of years of sporadically telling her that holding her hand was the best part of my therapy and that she "took it away" without telling me.