I'm sure you're feelings are thoroughly based on your experiences and therefore, aren't invalid in the least.

If I can reword what everyone has said, it's not really about you, but the men you've met. You're negative self image is based on the poor interactions you've had and that's not your fault, but the fault of the men. They were likely shallow and self-absorbed, not really anyone you wanted to be with anyway.

A genuine man will see you for the beautiful woman you are and your virginity wouldn't be the slightest issue. The reason I say this is because ... I'll tell you a secret ...

I was a virgin when my wife and I met. I didn't know jack, but I sure surprised her because I focused on her and made her feel wonderful.

So what I'm saying is that you'll make a wonderful partner for whoever you find and he'll be very lucky to have you in his life. Now it's all of matter of figuring out which rock to turn over to find him ...