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Originally Posted by Webgoji
I'm sure you're feelings are thoroughly based on your experiences and therefore, aren't invalid in the least.
If I can reword what everyone has said, it's not really about you, but the men you've met. You're negative self image is based on the poor interactions you've had and that's not your fault, but the fault of the men. They were likely shallow and self-absorbed, not really anyone you wanted to be with anyway.
A genuine man will see you for the beautiful woman you are and your virginity wouldn't be the slightest issue. The reason I say this is because ... I'll tell you a secret ...
I was a virgin when my wife and I met. I didn't know jack, but I sure surprised her because I focused on her and made her feel wonderful.
So what I'm saying is that you'll make a wonderful partner for whoever you find and he'll be very lucky to have you in his life. Now it's all of matter of figuring out which rock to turn over to find him ...
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Well, my past "romantic experience" with men has been that they all were unavailable. They were all already dating someone and I either didn't know that and I found out or I knew that and didn't pursue anything. Remember these were just crushes and none of them went anywhere because he didn't like me back and I never pursued him once I knew he was in a relationship.
My other experience with men is that they are all gay. No joke. I go to music school and more often than not, the men are gay and I naturally just assume that guys are gay and it is actually weird for me to think that most men are actually straight outside of my school. I'm probably in need of a paradigm shift there.
Then I have this thing I do where I see a guy who is cute and might be straight and I immediately start ripping him down in my head and noticing his flaws to make myself not like him to protect myself or something.
My other experience with guys is my father. Not a good experience. At all.
My negative image of men is from him and really only him. Maybe a little bit from the boys who teased me in middle school and high school. But mostly him.