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Originally Posted by hannabee
Whew!! I'm worn out from this relationship!!! Why aren't you???? Sounds like you have to try too hard to make it work. She wants to marry you, that is apparent...could she have an ulterior motive? If you know in your heart, you don't love her, it would be only fair to turn her loose and look for someone more compatible and trusting.
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hannabee:
When you married for as long as I was and then suddenly thrown into the single life, I am now getting to know me. And one thing I realized... I am dependent on having someone with me. In other words, I do care for her but not sure that I am in love with her. But at the same time she is very nice and enjoy her company.
I really believe she is truly not in love with me but enjoys my company as well. My opinion is.. my Ex-wife was not totally happy in the last 4 years of our marriage but as my therapist said, "It was good enough that she didn't want to leave". I think it maybe the same with Julie, she is not totally happy with our relationship but it is good enough to keep.
Now how do I find the courage to let her go? Or do I just enjoy what I have now and perhaps should not think so negatively. She has many good points and sometimes I just fixate on the negative ones. I don't know.