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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
IMO, yes, as long as it is done in a scenario where the person is safe and gets validated, and is allowed to express the trapped emotions. We are actually designed to seek comfort as well as have a need to talk about things that have threatened us.
Unfortunately, many people are trained to think they should not talk about their problems or challenges. And if someone has been exposed to emotional or physical abuse it is typically engrained into them "not to tell" by the abuser.
IMO, it is important this is done where the person is not in a situation where they face disbelief, or dismissiveness by others. I have experienced that first hand, and it really aggravated the PTSD symptoms in me.
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OpenEyes, I found your reply interesting and true.
I never thought about much about the importance of the person in front of you when you talk about past traumas. I pretty much thought it doesnīt matter as long as it gets out.
Iīve written on this forum about my difficulties with really expressing "full emotions" when talking about things and not trying to swallow them down.
I think it might have a connection to my feeling that my therapist does not seem to "have things in her hands". I mean that, having things in her hand, in a positive way. Not as if I donīt want to be in control myself. But I think when you feel that your T knows what she is doing/seems competent and sure of herself etc, itīs easy to "be weak" and let your guards down for some time and cry.
On the opposite, if you feel that youīre more in the know of things than the other person, like when talking to a child, I couldnīt let emotions flow like that. Because I donīt feel "safe" with a child to be "strong" for me or something. I donīt know if that makes sense and got out the way I meant it...