The cognitive distortion isn't about what he did to you. A distortion generally is in the way we think of ourselves as the result of some event. For instance, it is a fact that I was abused repeatedly. The distortion might be "I'm broken/ irreparably damaged" or "Men will always hurt me" or "I should have done something to stop it" or "I deserved what happened to me." Get beyond the event and into what that you may have decided that event tells you about yourself, others, the world.