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Originally Posted by BlessedRhiannon
Yeah - I'm not used to it either. It's not something I got from my family - my job was to take care of everyone else, not have someone take care of me or go out of their way for me. My first two T's consistently had non-helpful reactions and didn't encourage me to build any kind of strong relationship or trust with them. To have a T that actually seems to care, is good at her job, wants to help me, and consistently reacts to things in ways that are helpful for me is just so weird! I'm always stunned when T doesn't over react to something or she offers her time or even just reads my body language correctly.
Accepting this stuff is a work in progress. It's worth talking about with your pdoc/T, but you might have to go with a bit of radical acceptance too.
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Yeah I was the same, I was the one who tended to have to put their own needs aside and look after others in my family. I still get more satisfaction and joy out of helping other people, so my Pdoc is trying to teach me how to do that without forgetting about my own needs as well. We've made progress there, so maybe I need to apply the same principals to this as well.
