Hi. I have not posted here in this forum for quite some time. Let me explain my delema. My H and I started marriage T 2 years ago. Over the course of time the T decided to do some individual therapy with us both separately. We come back together for sessions once a month maybe. The T has realized that I am kinda fearful and not as forthcoming when my H is around and when she has just him he portrays it as things are "Great" and I see it much differently. We are on the verge of splitting up because he has been verbally and emotionally abusive in the past. He has greatly lessened those occurrences by the way but lessened is not the same as completely stopped.

Here is the problem:

The issues mostly lies with him badgering me after T to see what we talked about. I try to give him something but he just wants to know every detail and I am not up for discussing everything with him. I had T yesterday and Last night he pestered me till I gave him something brief that we talked about. Then later, like 30 min later, he asked so what else did yall talk about. Then after a little bit he says is that all yall talked about. If I don't answer him or say not much then he says "do we need to keep going then" , or "it cost to much just to sit and have chit chat with the T" . If I tell him I do not want to talk about it then he gets angry and decides to turn the tables and hurt me by telling me I am being closed minded, I am not being relational and the worst thing he tells me if he doesn't get answers is , that I have something to hide and I am distrustful and deceptive. Those are all issues that we are working on. So he is saying he is trying to make things better and I am not. None of those are he is saying to me are true. I want him to leave me alone. Can't he just let my issues be my issues. Even though they are sometimes "Our " issues can't I just work threw them alone. If they need to involve him the T will tell him or I will tell him. Until then leave me alone on this.

Have any of you ever been in a similar situation. I'd love to hear what you did to combat this. I am planning on talking to the T during my next session about this and see if she can help. I just get so tired of this every single week. Sometimes he calls me 5 min after my appointment to see how it went, and what did you talk about. I know he is insecure but he has to leave me alone. His insecurity is his issue and the reason we are in T is his issue, spousal abuse.

Any advice or thoughts, I'd love to hear it.