We've been trying some counseling and I can't talk about certain things when he's around bc later on he'll tell me I'm just trying to make him look bad and that I'm the one who really needs help. I feel like he doesn't even care anymore. Lately when he starts with that I just say, "You know what? If you wanna act like this that's your choice and it's my choice to ignore u or even leave for the night bc I'm not interested in getting *****ed at all night."  I wonder if mybe keeping a journal together might help.
When I was married we would argue about things or just act like morons so we started a journal. One of us would go in and write down what/how we were feeling about certain things going on and it really helped us get along better. Sometimes writing it down instead of using verbal communication is easier for some ppl.
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Maryjain Lockhart
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