Yikes....what an awful experience. I can't say if your T is competent or not, but she clearly believes she has skewed your therapy in a way that she feels necessary to fix. I wish she had worked this out and stabilized her emotions about it with a colleague before meeting with you. But it does sound like she's looking to meet you in the process, so I think it's worth it to keep going and try to hash things out. I hope you can be super clear with her about your perceptions, and that you can get the clarity about the process that you deserve.