Okay wow first off what a mean coworker. If someone asked me that I would immediately start listing as many positive traits as possible. In fact, I think that's more a reflection on him than on you. The fact that the first thing he thought up were criticisms show what a negative thinker he is about other people.

We're all made of a mixture of good and bad traits. And the most important part for your own self-worth, is to fill the walls with both and to aim to improve traits that aren't doing as well. (There are two theories on this, either strengthen your good traits until they cover your bad ones or strengthen your bad traits and become an all-around player).

And also, I wouldn't consider being sensitive a bad thing. But I think the ability to rationalize all the information that we take in from being sensitive is more important. For example, being sensitive has really paid off in making many people happy. But it also makes me prone to being unhappy because I'm constantly thinking that other people's behavior is exact in what they're feeling. But most people really don't notice when they are sending the wrong signals and etc. I'm glad I'm a sensitive person. I would much rather be hyper aware of my surrounding.

Plus, playing devils advocate is sometimes important depending on the situation. I know it's good when planning ideas and playing with interpretation of things. Every prep group needs someone to think from the opposite side to make sure they cover all their bases.

Disorganized and easily distracted often fall into the same category for me. But to be honest they aren't bad traits either. People just function differently. I know people who need a clean desk to be able to work. But for me as long as there is just a bit of space around me I can get what I need to done. So what if it takes me a few minutes to find some material? People should learn to mind their own space and not be so judgeful of others. If you work best with a little clutter just ignore them (to be honest if my desk is clean I need to put stuff on it otherwise I don't really feel comfortable with all the empty space).

And being easily distracted is not a bad thing either because your brain is always processing regardless of whether you're working on it or not. Which is why on exams they tell you to skip questions you don't know because parts of your mind are still thinking about it and I've had plenty of answers come to me after letting an issue rest than trying to smack my head against a brick wall. In fact, my sister is probably one of the most easily distractable people in this world and she's doing really well in work. Being easily distractable is not a bad thing. Only a difference in function. Some people can sit and work for hours on end. I work in 1 hour intervals and then I have to get up or take a 5 min break because my mind can't focus that long (plus it is proven you're more productive with breaks).

Sorry I just have a lot of feelings about topics like this. Just because some people function one way does not mean you have to too

We all beat ourselves up enough, don't let other people do it for you!