I'm sorry you were hurt.

Madame T put up with my hate mail for many years but then decided it wasn't helping me. "This has to stop!" she said. I felt she was right and I stopped emailing her altogether.

Then there was the time she withdrew her disapproval of me writing about us to other people.

The point is that Ts can change their minds. It is always unsettling, as we expect our Ts to be consistent and reliable. But if they find an approach is not working, what else can they do?

(Madame T was not good at realising an approach wasn't working, but that's another story.)