Doesn't he have his own T? Or if he did, would all he do is vilify you, and hence his quasi-paranoia about you talking badly about him?

Exh used to ask me, all the time, what was discussed. And would look over my shoulder to read things, etc.

Current bf. 'Was is a good meeting??' Doesn't look over my shoulder, when typing away. Even when I mentioned, that I think T is coming to an end, 'are you ready for that?' With an explanation of how/why, just to share.

Depends, I feel, on how secure another feels about themselves.