I dont understand. Your fight seems to be in what you tell, as if not telling means it didnt happen, or you dont have to deal with it. My fight with my t seems always to be with getting him to understand what happened and the meaning of what happened and coming up with a correct interpretation of what happened and how its affecting what happened today. When will be a good time to tell? Some people ONLY get six visits. Its like saving the good china and silver for a special occasion that never comes. Its like me saying i will exercise and clean house tomorrow, only tomorrow never comes. I can never get ahead of it or get it behind me and resolved and over. Cuz then what? Idk.