It can be hard to find a good balance.

From a personal point of view, my ‘worry’ of what others think is more based on just wanting an easier life. Unintentionally peeing others off/drawing unnecessary attention can be a right pain in the arse… so yeah, I have ‘control’ issues with how I present myself.

As the years have gone on, I’ve probably become more anti-social but as such that seems to draw people to me (odd how that works) and I’m quite good with banter and self deprecation.

Rule of thumb being if you can laugh at yourself… it’s not so bad when others do so.

So yeah, I’d say if you think you’re trying too hard… ease up on yourself and just let things unfold as they would… easier said than done lol.