Thanks! Yes, I really do feel it's more a matter of technicalities (and she's not very web savvy) than about her own appearance. The way she personally looks- I would NEVER dream of criticizing that. Never talk about hair or teeth or any completely-out-of-bounds topic like that. It's just.... the style of the cropping took what I thought was a really pleasant, warm photo that helped me feel better about our interaction to one where the darkness of it makes me feel a bit less comfortable. Like, I'll go to look at it for reassurance, and it's just SO dark and intense, like extreme black and white closeup in a way.

And I do ask myself: is it just me, am I projecting, blah blah blah, but... I've been looking at this photo since January and I just can't get used to it, it's disconcerting.