I was my mom's least favorite child. (There were 4 of us.) She had a grudge against her oldest brother and took the grudge out on me because I was the first born. Aunts, Uncles and cousins have said things to me over the years to try to console me but that has not helped much. I remain deeply scarred.

Here's my recommendation: Always make sure your chin us up and your shoulders are back to physically demonstrate your emotional strength and self worth. Don't engage the family in discussions about the past because they will not stick up for you. Hold on to your truth but don't keep arguing and asking for put downs and the like. When I realized that when Mom asked me how I was all she wanted to hear was "fine" then that's all I would tell her. It's their loss if they don't bother to get to know you well.

I suggest that you find / make a group of close knit friends who can serve as a second family. I think you will find that much more rewarding.